What I don’t want – and how to say No with kindness

You may not want something.

You may say No – to a purchase, to a suggestion, to a feeling.

This chapter helps you stay kind and clear – without having to justify yourself.

🛠️  Practical tips for the moment you want to say No

 

1. Make a small clarification – for yourself

  • Do I really want this?

  • Does it fit me right now?

  • What would I rather do or keep?

→ You may take yourself seriously – without needing to explain.

2. Make a short phrase – for others

  • "I’m not doing that this time."

  • "I’m spending my money differently right now."

  • "I’ve decided otherwise – thanks anyway."

→ You may stay kind – without bending yourself.

3. Make a small gesture – for your No

  • Write your No on a piece of paper.

  • Put it in your jar or your bag.

  • Say to yourself: "I may say No – and still feel included."


→ You may protect yourself – without hiding.

🧾  Mini‑exercise: Three situations – three kind Nos

 

Situation Feeling Kind No
Someone wants to go shopping with you You want to save "I’m not in the mood to shop right now – maybe later."
You’re invited to something You need rest "I’ll stay home today – thanks for asking."
You see a special offer You feel unsure "I’ll wait – maybe it will fit better later."

 

→ You may say No – without having to explain.

🕊️  Closing impulse

 

You may not want something – and still stay kind.

You may say No – without guilt.

You may protect yourself – without hiding.