You want to change something: your work, your structure, your impact.

But you look at others. They are faster. Louder. More successful.

And you ask yourself: "Am I enough?"

This chapter is not coaching. It is an impulse. For people who lose sight of themselves – and want to find themselves again.

🛠️  Three practical tools against comparison pressure

1. Self‑view card with three fields 

 

• Create a simple card with three headings:
  
  - What I truly can do – e.g. listening, explaining, creating
  
  - What matters to me – e.g. calm, impact, relationships
  
  - What I don’t need – e.g. speed, status, likes
  
  
• Fill it out honestly – not perfectly.
  
  
• You may honor yourself – not measure.

 

 

2. Weekly impulse: your own measure

 

• Each Monday, write one sentence that describes your own measure. For example:
  
  - "I work quietly – but with impact."
  
  - "I am visible – even without comparison."
  
  - "I may be slow – but I am real."
  
  
• Write it on a card and place it where you can see it.
  
  
• You may remind yourself – not compare.

 

 

3. Letting go of comparison – in three steps

 

• When you notice comparison is paralyzing you:
  
  - Breathe – consciously and calmly
  
  - Write down: "That's not me. I may be different."
  
  - Act – take one small, personal step: a pause, a sentence, a decision
  
  
• You may let go – without guilt.
  
  
• You may continue – with your own measure.

🕊️  Closing impulse

 

You may change something – at your own pace.

You may be visible – even without comparison.

You may honor yourself – not measure.

You may continue – with your own measure.