You want to be visible. With your work. Your stance. Your small creation.

But you fear judgment. The looks. The comments. The comparisons.

You ask yourself: "Am I too quiet? Too different? Too little?"

This chapter is not a pep talk. It is a quiet impulse. For people who want to show themselves – but need protection.

🛠️  Three signs for your own measure – not for applause

 

1. Visibility ritual with a protective phrase 

 

• Before you show something – a text, an image, a thought:
  
  - Breathe consciously – three calm breaths
  
  - Say softly: "I may be visible. I do not have to please."
  
  - Take specific action – publish a post, send an email, hang up a symbol
  
  
• You may show yourself – with inner protection.
  
  
• You may be visible – without being judged.

 

 

2. Right‑to‑retreat card with three fields

 

• Create a simple card with three headings:
  
  - What I want to show – e.g. a text, an image, a thought
  
  - What I may hold back – e.g. doubts, sketches, unfinished work
  
  - What I share only with people I trust – e.g. personal experiences, deep questions
  
  
• Fill it out honestly – not perfectly.
  
  
• You may decide what becomes visible – and what remains protected.

 

 

3. Letting go of judgment – in three steps

 

• When you feel criticism strikes you:
  
  - Breathe calmly – count to four as you inhale, to four as you exhale
  
  - Write down: "That is an opinion. Not my measure."
  
  - Act consciously – take a break, rephrase a sentence, seek feedback
  
  
• You may let go – without defiance.
  
  
• You may continue – with your own measure.

🕊️  Closing impulse

 

You may be visible – even if you are quiet.

You may show yourself – without needing to please.

You may protect yourself – without guilt.

You may continue – with dignity and measure.